Choosing Attendants

 

There is no required number of attendants: The average is four to six bridesmaids and at least as many groomsmen and ushers but you can include as many or as little. Ushers have the responsibility of seating guests at the ceremony, and the rule of thumb is to have one usher for every 50 guest.

It is not necessary to have an equal amount of bridesmaids and groomsmen: You do not have to have pairs; it is ok to have an odd number or maids or grooms-men. Do not alienate a family member or friend for the sake of symmetry. One groomsman can easily escort two bridesmaids in the recessional or bridesmaid could walk as a pair of alone.

 

You can have two maids of honor, a maid and a matron of honor or two best men: If you do not want to choose between siblings or good friends you can have two principal attendants. The attendants can share duties.

You can have pregnant bridesmaids: Unless there are religious restrictions, brides can certainly invite a friend who is expecting to be a bridesmaid. Just be considerate of her needs and capabilities.

Brides and Grooms can have attendants of the opposite sex: An honor attendant is another, more modern term for an attendant of the opposite sex. Honor attendants perform the same duties as the maid of honor, best man, bridesmaid, or groomsman position that they represent although some responsibilities might be altered. For example a male honor attendant would not help the bride get dressed.

Size and formality: The size and formality of your wedding helps determine the size of your wedding party. If you plan a small intimate gathering, you won’t want attendants outnumbering your guests. If the ceremony location is small you may have room for only one or two attendants if you are planning a large extravagant celebration then you may want and equally large wedding party.

Budget: The more attendants you have the more your budget will expand. The bride and groom are responsible for all bouquets, boutonnieres and wedding party gifts. Also the more attendants you have the larger your rehearsal dinner and reception guest lists because you are responsible for feeding and entertaining not only your attendants but your attendants partner as well.

Religious restrictions: Some religions have strict rules regarding official witnesses. Your honor attendants, at least may be required to be members of your faith.